Secrets of Communication

What time of the day, is your mind most cluttered? At these times your listening ability is at its minimum. When your listening is inhibited then you are unable to relate to the data that is given. Every day you are exposed to huge amounts of data. So how to optimize the listening? We need to identify the clutter in our mind. It could be emotions, hopes, threat perceptions, fear and even anxiety. To be a good listener it is important to know how to declutter the mind. Through techniques of pranayama and meditation, when you declutter your mind, clarity dawns.
You are always in the midst of immense data. Around you are situations and events. What does this circumstantial visuals tell you? They are giving you indicators of the ambience and the atmosphere. How do you perceive these visuals that are around you? Do you have a methodology to make inferences? How are you arriving at conclusions? Have you ever looked at your expressions? Your expressions are indicators to other people. Your expressions tell others about your personality. They know about you by your gestures and body language. Even the dress that you wear can become part of your communication. People may decide about you by looking at the way you carry yourself.
A nod, a wink, are also communicators. When you have clarity, then your thoughts become aligned to that which you want to communicate. Finding the right words is important. Using the right vocabulary can bring the desired impact. The vocabulary must contain the context, the sense and the spirit of your message. It must be full and final. Your expressions must have a purpose to impact your listeners.
People may absorb your communication through their emotions, feelings or even sentiments. Not all communications are limited to facts. A good communicator must know how to capture the imagination of the listener. A good communicator is capable of shaping the opinion of the listener. Communications are used with the objective of shaping social opinions. Doctors, architects and other professionals use factual communications. Artists, politicians and activists may use emotional communication. Parents and relatives may invoke heart felt impact through their communication. Two people in love with each other use communication of silence to enhance intimacy. Communication has a place in the world of intangibles. Many people claim to know subconscious communication. Ranging from the measures of psychology to the esotericism of telepathy, there are people to claim such expertise.
Mediums can be of many varieties. Gestures, body language, verbal speeches, personal talks and counseling are all communications. Technology seems to have changed the way we communicate. It is certainly easy to reach any number of listeners by clicking a forward button on your laptop. Information distribution and dissemination has become speedy through internet and other technology advancements. But yet the content and impact of your message needs to be gauged.
Haven’t you heard of the adage “Content is King”? You may have mediums such as newspapers, electronic media, visual mediums, and a multiple number of communication apps. Yet the social opinion will depend on the content and is not limited to your choice of medium. In this context of content, it is the victory of the human mind over and above technology and other infrastructure. Immense clarity in the author will generate rich content for the consumption of the listener.
In marketing terminology is the famous word noise. Noise is something that disturbs the transmission of the message between the author and the consumer. Here the speaker must become proficient in identifying the noise elements. Noise is anything that impedes the clarity of the content and its transmission. The communicator has to discover ways to eliminate the noise so that the chances of impact are increased.
Welcome to the new century. Our times are driven and dominated by technology. Technology has given access to every individual for their choice of information. Most informations are readily available at your fingertips. This convenience has not come without symptoms. There is merit in the discussion of “Attention Deficiency Syndrome” or ADS. Are you familiar with the abbreviation TLDR? It means “Too Long Didn’t Read”. Messages that are too long and too heavy with words will not find readers as in the past. The solution is visual communication. Photographs, video animations and other visually appealing communications will be demanded by your target audience.
Nobody can escape communication. Private communication, formal, public, informal, official or even personal; mankind will have to invest to learn to communicate. Refinement in your expressions can bring desired results from your listener. Every leadership demands good communicators. In the times when the attention span is minimum, then one has to impact even with the framework of an elevator pitch. Elevator pitch is an indicator of a peculiar situation. You may have just twenty seconds to persuade a stranger about your views and opinions. It is in these few seconds that you must appear credible, reliable and trustworthy. Not only your words, but your tone and approach should be at its optimum. Your efficiency in such an edge in communication can become the deciding factor of success or failure. Presentation, plan and preparation may just be the beginning. The thorough knowledge of critical factors by which your listener gives attention to your message, is essential. The edge is awarded to you in the following words. They are intellectual impact, emotional appeal, spontaneity and intuitions. The only way for all these to evolve and progress is through repeated interactions, transactions, pranayamas and meditations. Begin to learn to be silent. Your deep silence will increase the voltage in your words.
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