“Let’s go and shoot some pool”, is a sentence that is commonly heard when two men has not much to do. “Let us throw some dart”. Some even say “let us drink some shots”, meaning Tequila or Vodka. “Hey mate, let’s go and down some drinks”. All these above expressions are to go to the pub. It sounds like male bonding. The new generation has christened it differently. They call it bromance. It’s almost a friendly relation between two brother-like people. Brotherly likes. People have a need to come together. They want to relate. Romance is not essential to be able to relate. But then cupid needs a place too. Let’s introduce the Valentine’s days. I do not know much about the existence of Saint Valentine. But whoever this is, he has given a boost to the romance quotient among people. This happens in February. February has less number of days than other months. Is it linked to romance and then to Saint Valentine?
There is no specific age for romance. I do not know anybody who has escaped this phenomenon. People seem to attribute lot of niceties. Certainly it is an emotion that people would like to indulge. There seem to be a factory that generates attractive expressions. No repulsions this season. Only attractions. Mostly this phenomenon is visible in younger people. Many married couple spruces up their relationship with the excuse of the Valentine’s Day. Many people become couples because of the attraction during the Valentine’s Day. Though romance is part of Indian culture, Saint Valentine is an imported feature. Yet in the days of global conflicts, valentine becomes the welcome relief.
There is no specific age for romance. I do not know anybody who has escaped this phenomenon.
14th of February is the day when the most visible color is pink and rose. The most visible shape in the merchandise shop is that of the heart. The most read words are “Happy Valentine’s Day”. The participants does not have any commercial value in their relationships, but yet, commerce cannot be delinked from romance. A lot of money is expended to buy gifts. Flowers, clothes, foods, cosmetics, jewelry, holiday packages and even crystals are given as gifts for the Valentine’s Day. It is certainly a day where the urban space and the cities has immense activities. That may be the reason that I do not feel compelled to research the origins of Saint Valentine. It is not even evident that he has uttered few magic words to bond couples together. But yet, for all practical purposes, Valentine’s Day does not seem to be very harmful as much as is many other dangerous situations. In India, February 14th seem to be on the radar of some fringe elements who wishes to disrupt the celebrative sentiments. These fringe people may feel threatened by an invading culture. I am not equipped to make a value judgment. But what is sure is that the Valentine’s Day too is a fad (fad is the abbreviation which expands as, “For A Day”).
Romance in itself can never become endangered or extinct. The disrespect may be to the question of, who is its initiator.
There are many systems that confines people’s emotion into protocols and procedures. They may have difficulty to accommodate such informal expressions of sentiments. Many people has reasons to counter the Valentine’s Day calling it an unofficial coming together of two people. Saint Valentine seemed to have the capability to disrupt the assumed authority of the custodians. They control the people. How do we peg the audacity? On the conservative grip on romance or on the opening up of frozen ideas. In any case, all fingers can point to the thought processes and mindsets. It may not be polite to work to reverse this wind of change.
Romance in itself can never become endangered or extinct. The disrespect may be to the question of who is its initiator. Valentine may not be of Indian origin but yet he seemed to be able to neutralize violence. The world is in a mood to embrace that which is non-violent. The millennials are ready to experiment. They seek exposures. The millennials seeks alternatives, relief and solutions. Did Saint Valentine predict this trend or the time has come of age? Whatever be it, many even claim to be able to vent suppressed emotions, under the cover of Saint Valentine’s Day.
There are romance junkies too. There may even be opportunists. Some may even misrepresent it as having healing properties or may call it romance therapy.
The ever romanticist has reasons to exercise caution. Certainly the experience of romance is reversible. The wise voice calls for thorough balance in the use of emotions. Luckily Saint Valentine seems to have recommended the relationship to be limited to romancing. Such a limit brings refinement and poetry in the participants. The refinement defuses the need to be seen as rebels and revolutionaries. The beauty of clean environments, well dressed people, decorated market and shops, intimate whispers and even fragrant attires all combines to bring some acceptance to the Saint Valentine’s Day.
Valentine may not be of Indian origin but yet he seemed to be able to neutralize violence. The world is in a mood to embrace that which is non-violent.
Very rarely are anybody left out from the experience of romance. To those who feel marginalized can today take a stroll outdoors. They must emit the prayers until they get noticed. If Saint Valentine is true, then he will take accountability of the lonely hearts. Call it bonding, bromance, romance, coupling or even dating. If in case all combines to bring festivities and cheer, then you can add one more day to celebrate. Then look at the neighbors and study the way they respond to your adaptation of the Valentine’s Day. Welcome to the new art of persuasive relations. Best wishes and greetings.
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