It is the 50th wedding anniversary of Virendran and Bipasha. That is what was written on the flex banner as the backdrop. The stage decoration was elaborate. But what drew the attention was the grandeur of the two-seated sofa that was at the center of the stage. This was meant for the elderly couple who are now 80 years and 75 years respectively. Their two sons had organized this function to celebrate the completion of 50 years of marriage. The grandchildren did the narrations. These young boys and girls designed the evening, cultural events, the dance and song performances. Professional master of ceremonies played her role that brought applause from everybody. There was a lineup of speakers, almost eleven of them, each of whom knew Virendran and Bipasha. Each of them uttered, muttered and then spoke of moments that touched their lives by this couple. For the couple, who were listening to these nostalgic stories, this was a heartwarming and emotional hour. Many even shed tears during this poetic expressions. The program was extremely gracious and full of maturity.
50th wedding anniversary is by no means a simple task. The behaviors and perception capabilities of the husband and the wife are a case study for the next generation.
There were about 200 invited guests among the audience. Each and everybody were part of this family and are related to one another. Listening to the grapevine, we heard the hardships that each of them endured to make it to this function. They were old and an average age in the hall was over 65 years old. They are of economic means of middle class families. Most had to travel from distant places to be able to participate in this occasion. Many were not physically as fit as they were, when they were younger. Yet, all had the grit and perseverance to ensure that this occasion of bonding was well attended.
Though economically of middle class means, all these men and women were of remarkable accomplishments and academic achievements. It was heartening to note that the hall was impregnated with an ambience of humility and intense patience. The fragrance of contentment and the flavor of gratitude was evident. Anybody would have rated the discussions and conversations as that of very high on the IQ scale.
This is a net-connected world where the key performance index is about indulging the youth. And the mood and the narrative worldwide is set to – how to look younger.
Many pleasantries, meet and greet, exchanges of views and opinions, and otherwise mundane conversations were the colorful factors in the chit and the chatter of this household.
The noteworthy insight is that, in all these trivial and frivilosities, there was immense nobility and silence. This in effect was the glory of this congregation.
50th wedding anniversary is by no means a simple task. This context may seem to be reducing in number in a global statistics. But the couple that has made it through has become the role model. The behaviors and perception capabilities of the husband and the wife are a case study for the next generation. Such research into these case studies within the institution of marriage will reveal the depth, the understanding, the vastness and the expanse of the mental faculties of this couple. Their commitment for each other and their steadfastness alone has brought them to this day of celebration of 50th year in marriage.
The buffet lunch were mostly gourmet dishes from the list of foods for healthy living. Fitness and health was the most important criterion in the choice of menu. Most of these guests emulated the perfection of connoisseurs in everything that they did. The generation next can imbibe the art of good living from these senior citizens.
It will be wise if the young will invest in re-imagining the idea of treasure. The knowledge will then dawn that the actual treasure may be vested in the elderly.
This is a net-connected world where the key performance index is about indulging the youth. The cinemas, has a paranoia on catering to the sensational appetites of the young people. The economy and industry works around to indulge the young people. The inventions and innovations are credited to people below 35 years of age. And the mood and the narrative worldwide is set to – how to look younger. In such a backdrop, the 50th wedding anniversary is a practical contrast. This function irreversibly differentiated the men from the boys. This function categorized the women power from that of younger ladies and girls. None of the people in this hall did artificial blackening of their hair. They appeared to be very proud of their aging process. They seemed to have the ultimate monopoly over the experience of living. They were certainly restful and calm. No news of any panic would trigger imbalance in these people. They have left the youthfulness very far away in the race towards steadiness and stability. Sometimes we need to redefine our idea of strength, resource and utility. It will be wise if the young will invest in re-imagining the idea of treasure. The knowledge will then dawn that the actual treasure may be vested in the elderly. I recommend that all elderly people in your house be given the festivities that they rightly deserve. My best wishes to all who are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary.
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