Modernize your Brain
Maintaining cordial relationship is already fifty percent, in wealth generation. People want to create revenue. For this, good transactional skills are essential, which includes inside the family and in the institution of marriage. If two spouses are in conflict with each other, then they bleed the resources instead of protecting it.
So, what is a cordial relationship? Everything works on its specific system. A system is founded upon processes. So marriage, wedding and relationships have their own system. Many call these systems as traditions, and the processes as culture. Now, these have become simply into dry rituals. Many times, these ceremonies have no meaning and gestures have no purpose. But these outdated habits have corroded the brain. Time has come to modernize your brain.
We have arrived at testing times. The time, as in duration or length of an activity, is constant. Though the time moves at a constant pace, yet the thought in each person are changing. Thoughts are diverse and has varying pace. Without a study of time and thoughts, how can we expect to achieve favorable results? Our work style, relationships and the way we live is bound by an ability of conversation.
The skill to talk it out, is very important. Many conflicts could be avoided if we mastered the art of talking. Talking with the appropriate words can get desired results. The use of wrong words, when you talk, can get misunderstandings or even confrontation. If the method of your winning is limited to the defeat of an adversary, then the victory is not noble. Are you treating the other person, the way they like to be treated? Are you imposing on to others, your draconian rules? Do not take them for granted. So, we are now at testing times. These testing times demand that you upgrade your talking skills. Even relationships, can take up some specific and detailed training. We have to exert to train ourselves to maintain cordial relationships. New times, must have fresh approaches to relationships.
Can you agree to pay the price for this training program? Everything has a cost. There is an emotional cost to retain cordiality in relationship. It is certainly a pleasure to share. But you cannot take anything for free. It has a value.
The skill to talk it out, is very important. Many conflicts could be avoided if we mastered the art of talking.
Each person inside the family has a different need. Each person has a need which is very intimate to the individual. Agreeing to this personal sentiment is an indicator of respect to that person. Visible indicators of respect can nurture trust. Trusting each other is the foundation within the family. This trust is precious and must be secured. Trust makes the home, into a place of good taste.
Establishing the crucial element of a team-sense in the family is a joint effort. Achieving consensus and relating to a framework can be developed. Develop the learning. Understand many types of framework to relate with. This is urgent. We need innovative framework within which, resolutions are made.
The vision is of a family that has cordiality and family values. But to convert this vision into a tangible reality, you have to disrupt your identity based tradition and propriety based culture.
Today’s times require you to modernize your brain. Even inside relationships, people must use technical words to convey emotions. Instructions are clear. Even teasing one another can be measured. Then humorous expressions are calibrated.
Many people inside relationships are talented tricksters. If the objective is to ensure harmony in relationship, then these tricks, to progress can be helpful.
Many conflicts happen when funny tricks misfires and then become perceived as threats. So, practice caution in relationships. Honesty in communication is an integral portion of a good relationship. The objective must be to convey. Be assured that, hurt emotions are temporary. Tackling an ego centric and selfish spouse is a challenge that most couples experience. Though time is a teacher and healer, it is important to listen to the other person.
The relationship must innovate to keep it nice and juicy. There must be flexibility in the relationships so that its members can mature through many roles.
Sometimes, the members of a family may outgrow their limitations. They may want additional growth, and personal challenges, outside the confines of a particular house. Isn’t it better to allow some creative freedom, so that all can express their talents, even if it is external to home? Steadfastness to hold on, must not be allowed to ferment into being ignorant and stubborn. Not all expressions of protest and resistances deserve condemnation by you. The cordiality will be strengthened if there is a platform, so that all can feel safe to express unhappiness too. Some dissatisfaction must not pervert itself into a violent offence. Even dissent can be accommodated. But only good breathing techniques, yoga and meditations can release sense of avenge and revenge. These two are the worst emotions to a relationship.
The relationship must innovate to keep it nice and juicy. Wife can become friend, father can become mentor, daughter can be teacher or son can be provider. There must be flexibility in the relationships so that its members can mature through many roles. All are transiting, through new discoveries. Many changes are not understood by themselves. So, transcending your focus on stress, and behavior of people, into knowing them as researchers of their personality, will help. You have to cultivate an attitude that you are confident about yourself, when they express change. So, it’s your time to modernize your brain. Simply tinkering with, laws and regulations alone, will not save a relationship.
Do not bring back the trail that is left behind. The past worries must be erased fully and completely. Do not be anxious about the treasure of future.
The members in your family, are yours only if you take them in their totality. Now, it’s your turn to use this tipping point. Change your outlook, learn the new words. Produce your new relationship with the same people. Transport yourself to the new possibilities. Enjoy the cordial relationships. Talk to them.
About the Author:
Mr. Vinod Kumar is popular columnist from India who provides amazing insights and perspectives on diverse topics. He is a good writer, motivator, trainer, consultant and a mentor to many. His interests span media, politics, sports, food, travel, leisure, and study of the mind. His articles are provided exclusively on finomenon.org