In traditional houses it used to be the father who brings home the money and resources. He was called the head of the family. The father was the provider. In many houses, it is the father who is the disciplinarian. Today is father’s day. How do you know your father? As what do you consider him?
Children mostly had a fear element towards the father. Many times father is not seen as loving as much as is the mother. It is known that the father is caring but yet the children generally turn to the mother for solace and relief. The father seldom expresses emotionally. Yet, the unwritten rule was that he protects everyone in the house. As head of the family the well-being of the family was the accountability of the father. Therefore it is not surprising that we celebrate the father’s day.
Honoring the position of the father is a daily practice. But yet celebrating the institution of father has a specific day in a year. Children and their mothers convey their best wishes. Today is the day that you can pamper your father. He may not be seeking or expecting any gifts. But the children has a opportunity to express gratitude. They buy gifts and choose to spend the entire day to entertain the father.
The father’s day is essential when the father is needing support and assistance. Our generation has to ensure that the fathers are well looked after. The fathers has made many sacrifices for the wellness of his family. His main concern has always been the welfare and growth of the children. The strong man in the house who is the role model is attributed to the father figure. It is not for no reason that some leaders are fondly referred as father figure. Fatherliness emits a sense of maturity and security for the children.
Children learn courage and valor by seeing the dealing of their father. But the fathers sometime seem a little distant in a very closed affairs of the home. Yet it is certain that at all times his attention is of keeping his home out of way of harm. The mother sometime expresses her feelings with some tears. The entire family then comprehends the language of the mother. Rarely do you see the father having a liberty to use the language of tears. Many times the father has to pretend to be the last resort. His verdict has to be seen as coming from a learned person. Fathers are expected to be more supportive during the development age of the child. Many children claim that their father bestows more trust and freedom on children. Children form their self-confidence and complexes by observing the way the father deals with other people.
Certainly it is not an easy task to be a parent. The focus is not on who can father a child, but it is on, has the children in their adulthood seem to cherish their moments that they spent with the father. The children who are 25 year old today can choose to reciprocate to their father in any which way. The sentiments in this reciprocation can become the measure of your success as the father. The children has the choice to celebrate this day for the father. Your decision to celebrate father’s day may be more important to you than it is to your father. This is because it is seeing your relationship with your father that your children will learn to deal with you. So have a happy father’s day, for the concept of fatherliness.
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